Does your husband need someone to talk to?
Is he withdrawing from you and the family?
Are you left feeling helpless as he refuses to ask for help or open up?
Are you seeing him struggle with work stress, financial pressure, or anger he won't talk about?
Does this sound familiar?
I have worked with many men whose partners noticed
they were drinking more or isolating themselves
explosive anger over small things
silence and emotional shutdown instead of communication
stress about work or money that consumed them
loss of interest in things they used to enjoy
I support men who are struggling with:
💼 Work stress, career transitions, and professional identity
💰 Financial pressure and providing for family
😤 Anger management and emotional regulation
💔 Relationship communication and connection
🧠 Depression, anxiety, and men's mental health
He can keep trying to handle everything alone and continue struggling.
Or
He can work with me and take a step toward the support and clarity he deserves.
How to Help Your Partner Take the First Step
Many men resist therapy because of stigma, fear of judgment, or belief that they should handle problems themselves. Here's what you can do:
Approach with concern, not criticism:
"I've noticed you seem stressed lately, and I'm worried about you" works better than "You need therapy."
Normalize it:
Frame therapy as a tool successful men use, like having a coach or advisor. Many high-performing men have therapists.
Share this page:
Sometimes reading about therapy from someone who gets men's struggles is easier than hearing it from a partner.
Offer to help with logistics:
Finding a therapist and scheduling can feel overwhelming when someone is already struggling. Offering to help research or book an appointment removes barriers.
Respect his autonomy:
Ultimately, he needs to choose to engage. You can open the door, but he has to walk through it.
FAQs
My husband refuses to go to therapy. What can I do?
This is incredibly common. Many men have been socialized to believe asking for help is weakness. You can't force someone into therapy, but you can reduce barriers. Share resources (like this page) that speak directly to men's experiences, normalize therapy as a tool rather than a last resort, and be patient. Sometimes men need to hear the message multiple times or hit a breaking point before they're ready. You can also come to therapy yourself to learn strategies for supporting him and protecting your own wellbeing.
Will you tell me what he says in sessions?
No. Confidentiality is essential for therapy to work. Your partner needs to know he can speak freely without worrying about information getting back to you. However, with his permission, I can occasionally involve you in sessions or share general progress updates. The goal is always to help him, which ultimately helps your relationship, but his privacy must be protected for therapy to be effective.
How do I know if his anger is something therapy can help with?
If his anger is causing problems—damaging relationships, affecting work, or causing him distress—therapy can help regardless of the underlying cause. Anger is often a surface emotion covering deeper issues like anxiety, shame, feeling disrespected, or loss of control. We work together to understand what's driving the anger and develop healthier ways to process and express difficult emotions.
What if he's dealing with multiple issues—work stress, financial pressure, and relationship problems?
Most men don't come to therapy with a single, isolated issue. Life stressors often compound—work stress affects finances, financial pressure creates relationship tension, relationship problems impact work performance. That's exactly what therapy is designed for: untangling these interconnected challenges, developing coping strategies, and addressing root causes rather than just symptoms.
He says he's "fine" but I know he's not. Should I push him to get help?
You can express concern and offer support, but pushing often backfires and creates resistance. Instead, try: "I believe you when you say you're handling it, but I'm worried because I've noticed [specific observations]. I care about you and I'm here if you want to talk or need help finding support." Then respect his response while keeping the door open. Sometimes men need time to recognize they're not actually fine before they're ready to seek help.
What makes your practice different for men who are reluctant to try therapy?
I specialize in working with men and understand the specific barriers men face with therapy—discomfort with vulnerability, action-oriented rather than feeling-focused approaches, and concerns about being judged. My approach is practical, goal-oriented, and respects that men often process emotions differently than what traditional therapy expects. Many men who were skeptical about therapy find this approach more accessible and effective.